Going Beyond Comparing to Understanding - BK Shivani

Instead of complaining and criticizing do something which you feel it should be like. Never say anything to anybody unless you can do it better. If it is not your quality then your words will not work. Right energy will create miracle first understand, accept and then do it and then ask them to do it. 

Past sanskars plays crucial role with what you are now. We are not able to understand other person. If you don't heal Sanskar will carry forward and as it goes on it will become stronger. The only one think we carry forward from birth to birth is Sanskar. Understanding other person is very important. Compassion is missing. 

Compassion for what they are feeling now. Complete understanding of the prospective of the others. Soul consciousness is very important. 

Two options,

• Criticize and deeper the sanskar.
• Help them to get out of his sanskar.

I understand that soul is not being healed. Accept them as they are. Can I live the whole day without complaining anybody? Feedback & request is OK but complaining is damaging. Criticism, comparison and control 4 c.

Going Beyond Criticizing and Comparison -It is not about what you say it is all about how you say.

Criticism and Comparison is not comfortable for anybody. The one who is criticizing is also not comfortable. So, we need to understand damage is from both end. In fact the person who criticizing what the energy he feel and what the energy he receive. They giving me advise. The one who is giving me is not giving with the right energy. 

If he is feeling bad you can not do good for him. You sent the right vibration and the other person not feel it is not possible. The intention must be very pure. This is very important and difference between advise and criticism. 

Critic-Quality of the work. We need to be critic. Review give our feedback. This was not done right. Criticizing-Hitting to the person. You are wrong. 

So, much violence is there through criticism it creates very deep wounds. You need to very careful that are we creating positive environment proactively. First appreciate them for the quality he has and other task he did good. This will build up self confidence and power. 

When we receive energy we do any of the one with energy,

• Receiving/Absorbing-I consume it and feel heart.
• Reflect it-Give him same energy.
• Transform the energy-I transformed energy by accepting that person considering his sanskar and sending the pure vibration in terms of energy.

It is not about what you say it is all about how you say. You are sending energy continuously and words less often. What are you thinking about them. Most of the time when you thinking about others you are very critical. It is lots about how we are feeling inside for others. We should not criticize or compare anybody with anyone. Habits are meant to be change when we don't get right result. Originally peaceful soul. Anger is very damaging for you and surrounding. 

Soul consciousness is the root answer to cure decease easily. See each individual in its true nature and not acquired sanskar. Instead of criticizing and comparison to understanding the soul. And then helping them to heal their sanskar. That will create right energy for transformation. 

Going Beyond - Controlling to Influencing - BK Shivani

A lot is happening inside. When we accept people and stop judging them our energy will be in harmony. You didn't listen to me that is why you are fail. It is only selfish when their doing is your happiness. For example sit like this and I will be happy only if you sit like this. If you don't do it like that way I will not get disturbed. If my intention is his/her growth/development/nourishment etc... I will not get heart/disturb. If you get disturbed and send vibrations result will be conflict and both are not comfortable. My stability will give me the power to understand them/situation and it will give them the power to change. 

Internally be stable and externally give the opinion you want to give. -Very important. Accept that right now I am absolutely fine with the way they do it. Meditation helps that my state of mind is not dependent on others. This can be taken in every aspect of life and situation what ever we do with one we can do with every one the formula remain same like maths formula. Work on my self remain stable and they can do what they want to do. I am only controlling my self i.e. taking charge of my self. My thinking will not change whether they obey and don't obey me. If you disturb when other person don't listen you have to work on your self because that is in your control. When it hearts it is controlling and now when I remain stable it is influence. 

Acceptance means we are comfortable with their present sanskar and the way of working and ready to work on it from the next moment i.e. future. Rejection is focused on the past, the mistake they made. 

Going Beyond Control (Being Master and Child) -BK Shivani

Control others

Can we control people? And how do we control people. Controlling people meance we want people the way we want them to behave. Very shuttle different emotional change. 

Why Control is not healthy

Danger part is we think they change because we want them to change. Controller and Controlled being both getting weaker since their key for happiness/comfort is others hand. What ever the situation is we/other choose what we/they want to do. This will remove feeling that I am controlled by others. In any situation it is my choice what ever I choose. I do it because I want to do it. This is big shift in conscious. And it tells that I have choice I can do what I want to do. Control is so much of weakness. 

My feeling of powerful is dependent on others like they are obeying my instructions or not. My actual power should be in being I am listening to my self and not get upset when person choosing other person. Power over my self is happiness. I was as comfortable as if other person don't accept my decision. 

If our happiness/comfort are there when other person follow my instruction in case they stop obeying my instruction I feel rejected/ego heart and we stop playing a role as facilitator, guide, parents, friends. And accept what ever they choose to do with now and after it is their choice. When we hurt we we give energy of resistance. 

Best way 

We should gradually learn how to influencing people instead of controlling people.  

Going Beyond Limited Self image (Explore and Experience) - BK Shivani

Important thing for mediation

Do meditation in the morning (one place, one time). Discipline must be there in meditation. Do meditate in place other than your sleeping place. Charging your self and create new way of thinking. Study in the morning planted new seeds in the mind. Mind's absorb capacity is very high. First 45 mins for the day. (I will go to Ramkrishna hall at sharp 6:30 am every day this time is very good 1) since it is early minimum disturbance will be there 2) I will be able to go without other work since it early )

Review your day

In the night just before you go for sleep, review how your day goes and area of improvement you should do. Keep the story very short and focus on the way we responded let write down what could have been the other way of writing, it is preparation for the coming situation. We are going to thing what I have to do and not what I don't have to do. Churning mistake is just wastage of time and energy. It is over and past (any mistake like broken glass). I just dropped in the morning but next time I will really do it very well. Review is very important. Unless you check where they are heading. And if you don't know you will not know area of improvement. 

Get out of your comfort zone and explore your true identity

Guilt & carelessness both of these are comfort zone. Pro activeness is I did it and I will do it other way with awareness next time. Comfort zone is if this situation will be like the way I want/imagine, I am comfortable other wise not. Unlimited way of thinking. Explore and experience so much because now we don't want to go out of this comfort zone because of self image for our self. Remember the story of elephant with iron chain in his childhood and still he is in a boundary that he will not be able to out of this chain control.

We can change Sanskara

Never give label to your child or student or any body. We can change Sanskara we can change it. It is the color I used to create image of my self. Today what we are thinking is the image of past color we have drawn in the mind. We use that picture to create your thoughts and feeling. You are slow etc...

What to do while meditating

Meditation is the consciously choosing the thoughts that make you limitless and cross the boundary you have created for your self. Churn that I am peaceful, pure, powerful, blissful soul. This is my original Sanskara. Royal soul is the one who is not dependent and not bagging for any one. Royalty in my every thought, feeling, word and action. A royal soul at work with family and friends how would be my every thought and feeling as a royal soul? I will be complete, unlimited. Everything to share to Gifted one. 

Going Beyond External Stimulus

Gyan -> Yog -> Dharana -> Seva 4 steps to change sankar/habits and cultivate new belief system.

What ever is comfortable I am in harmony with. Let us not go with right or wrong go with what you feel comfortable with. Success should be internally. Success inside has automatically impact outside.

Everything is at its perfect. My thoughts, words and action should be in harmony. Our own discomfort, conflict make me lots of effort to accept the situation as it is. Accept everything as it is. You are using stimulus for your happiness. This is not healthy mental condition since you are dependent for your happiness. When relationship will be beautiful I will be happy is again dependencies for your happiness. 

Golden rule to implement what you learnt in your life->Use mind and knowledge and explore the ideas. Use your mind and intellectual to use that knowledge. Churning the knowledge. Use the ingredient and use it in your life. 

When you use/love something with the understanding that you feel happy with possession the next thought will come into mind is of losing them. Shuttle fear along with it. Second thought what if this is not with me. I will be happy and now I will use it. Happy meance I have no fear, no insecurity. I will use it by being happy.

Dependices, fear and happiness can not go hand on hand. Because mind creates one thought at a time and both fear/depend ices and happiness are contrary to each other. 

Doing everything we are doing. Lots of change inside. Earlier we wait for that feeling. And now I am happy today and I will attend the party and share my happiness with others. 

Situation meant for happiness but with the discomfort inside we are not able to enjoy that situation. I will be happy only after others approval and appreciation of others. If I am feeling nice I am in good mood. It is about in crisis being and difficult person and be peaceful. There is no stimulus there is no outcome it is your 

test that how you use knowledge you acquired. You can test it at the time of stimulus only. It is important that just aware about what is happening in my world. But to remember everything happening outside is the outcome of what is happening inside. What is inside will be outside. 

Going Beyond Habits (Power of Knowing)

We need the power to change Habits/Sanskara. Gyan->Yog->Dharana->Seva are the steps this will give the power required to change sanskara. We normally creates 25-30 thoughts per minutes . And when you silence your mind you can create 2-3 thoughts per minute. Lesser the thoughts per minute higher the quality of thoughts. You can do this by doing pranayam (especially kapalbhati and anulom-vilom pranayam) with awareness.

Consciously create thoughts during mediation is good for me. Rajyoga meance I am consciously creating different kind of thoughts good for me. I am a peaceful, powerful, pure, love full (I am giving love to myself) being are powerful thoughts. Also the beauty of these thoughts is they are truth, not time bound, and falls under your circle of influence (and not circle of concern).

To change habits below are the steps,

1. Being aware of thoughts/habit. Silence the top layer and say I am love full being. I have the power to cleaning my mind. 

1. And then start healing them with the powerful thoughts and by connecting to almighty and getting the power to heal decease. Connecting to the ocean of love, peace, purity. Why just not connect to the one who give unconditional love. 

For example, When I feel/experienced that no body loves/cares me but once I create I am love full soul I am giving love to other. And when I create such powerful thoughts I am the first person who feel love. I feel it while I am giving it. If I give you fire I will be the first who will experience it and the same for water. So, in nutshell such powerful thoughts makes me powerful by removing my dependencies on other for love/care/attention. On the contrary I will be proactive and create thoughts that what I can do being peaceful, pure, powerful and love full soul.