Going Beyond Control (Being Master and Child) -BK Shivani

Control others

Can we control people? And how do we control people. Controlling people meance we want people the way we want them to behave. Very shuttle different emotional change. 

Why Control is not healthy

Danger part is we think they change because we want them to change. Controller and Controlled being both getting weaker since their key for happiness/comfort is others hand. What ever the situation is we/other choose what we/they want to do. This will remove feeling that I am controlled by others. In any situation it is my choice what ever I choose. I do it because I want to do it. This is big shift in conscious. And it tells that I have choice I can do what I want to do. Control is so much of weakness. 

My feeling of powerful is dependent on others like they are obeying my instructions or not. My actual power should be in being I am listening to my self and not get upset when person choosing other person. Power over my self is happiness. I was as comfortable as if other person don't accept my decision. 

If our happiness/comfort are there when other person follow my instruction in case they stop obeying my instruction I feel rejected/ego heart and we stop playing a role as facilitator, guide, parents, friends. And accept what ever they choose to do with now and after it is their choice. When we hurt we we give energy of resistance. 

Best way 

We should gradually learn how to influencing people instead of controlling people.